You can’t make someone love you. I learned this the hard way. My whole life, I was looking for the right one, and I believed that true love was not giving up on them. The more I fought for the relationship, the more special our relationship was. And I thought they felt the same way, too.
But a relationship based on mutual love and affection shouldn’t be difficult.
Therefore, if you find yourself fighting for a relationship, but you feel like you are doing it alone, it is not worth it. If you are the only one compromising and doing what they tell you, then you are in a one-sided relationship. Your partner is selfish, and if you value yourself, you wouldn’t want to be with someone like that.
If you are always calling them first and initiating contact, then chances are they are not missing you or want to see you. If your gut feeling tells you that something is wrong, listen to it. Because, more often than not, there is something wrong with your relationship, and you need to pay attention to the warning signs.
And you do that because you don’t think you are worthy of love. You don’t believe that you are enough for someone to choose you; therefore, you never stand up for yourself when someone is not treating you right. That’s how you end in toxic relationships.
A healthy relationship needs equal effort from both sides. The right one will treat you with respect. They will see your worth and treat you the way you deserve to be treated. Your relationship may not be perfect, but it will be real and full of love and understanding.
With the right person, it won’t be difficult. The relationship will feel effortless. You will be free to tell your partner everything that’s on your mind and vice versa.
There won’t be any games.
There won’t be chasing or begging for love and attention.
Only love.
Because you will choose each other. And you will both look in the same direction.
